Easing Separation Anxiety

Easing Separation Anxiety

Beginning a new school year is a time of excitement and uncertainty for many new children. For some, it is their first time being away from home for a stretch of time. It is common for students (and parents) to experience feelings of anxiety; this is perfectly normal. These feelings are often caused by a fear of the unknown, as the child has no point of reference to draw upon when faced with a new environment or experience.

Separation anxiety can also be attributed to a child’s stage of development. Separation anxiety is a normal part of development, and most common for children aged eight months to two years; however, it can affect children of all ages. The first day of school, in a new room or level, can bring on a reoccurrence of separation anxiety in children who were previously settled. It takes time for young children to build relationships and establish a sense of trust with their new guides, so that they come to understand that their new environment is a safe and happy place. This is not uncommon, and is likely to settle once a new routine and relationships have been established.

 

           

 

Below you will find a number of strategies published by the Montessori Academy to help Montessori parents settle their children into preschool. Remember separation anxiety is a phase, it is perfectly normal, and will pass in time.

Positive Behaviors and Attitudes

Modeling positive behaviors and attitudes plays an important role in the success of the first day of school, and the weeks thereafter. Keep discussions about school positive, and focus on things that your child is likely to enjoy. Children pick up on parent’s feelings, behaviors, and emotions, and are likely to emulate them if you are feeling upset or uncertain.

Morning Routines

Establish a positive and happy morning routine for preschool days. For children over two, this may include encouraging your child to pack their own school bag or sing a happy ‘school day’ themed song. Always give yourself plenty of time to get ready and arrive on time. Feeling late or rushed can cause children to feel additional anxiety.

Acknowledge your Child’s Feelings

It is important to accept that your child’s unhappiness at being separated from you is real, very normal, and temporary. Reinforce that you understand that leaving your child makes them unhappy, but that it is important that you leave, and they will have a good time. Avoid offering your child bribes for good behavior or not crying as this is only a temporary solution. Learning to cope with sadness is an important part of your child’s development and learning about emotions.

Positive and Prompt Goodbyes

When you drop your child off, don’t linger outside the classroom or stay for “just one more minute.” As a parent, the best thing you can do is give your child a hug and a kiss as they get out of the car, let them know you love them, and reassure them that you will be back soon. It is important for your child that you do not delay the inevitable.

Establish a Goodbye Routine

Montessori parents who establish a consistent goodbye routine typically have better luck with successful goodbyes. Take a special moment with your child to say goodbye, and do it the same way, every day. This may be as simple as a kiss and a cuddle, giving your child a thumbs up, or establishing a ‘secret’ hand shake. A special goodbye is a great way for your child to start their day feeling happy and reassured.

Encourage Friendships

Make a point of getting to know your child’s friends and classmates at school, and encourage friendships outside of school. These friendships will help make your child’s transition to the new Montessori environment easier.

Pick Up Routines

It is important to be punctual when picking up your child. It easy to lose track of time, but no matter who is picking your child up, always be on time. If you are late, it can cause your child to feel more anxiety, and makes drop off the next time much harder.

Positive Daily Reflections

On the way home, establish a routine where you talk to your child about their school day. Focus on the positive aspects of their day, such as their favorite activity, or playing with their best friend. By consistently reinforcing the positive aspects of their school day, your child will learn that their new environment is a fun and happy place, and their feelings of anxiety will decrease over time.

 

Grace & Courtesy is All About Respect

Grace & Courtesy is All About Respect

“A child who becomes a master of his acts through repeated exercises [of grace and courtesy]…is a child filled with health and joy and remarkable for his calmness and discipline.” – Dr. Maria Montessori

Have you ever entered a Montessori classroom and noticed that the children are naturally respectful of each other and often helpful? An older child may help a younger child zip his jacket zipper. A child might accidentally spill beans on the floor and two children stop what they are doing to help her clean up. Two students having a disagreement decide to go over to the peace table to work it out. These are manifestations of tGrace and Courtesy in the Montessori classroom, which is built upon 1) treating the child with respect, 2) teaching the child to respect herself, 3) teaching the child to treat others with respect, and 4) teaching the child to treat her environment with respect. Grace and Courtesy remains a focus at every level of Montessori education.

When we respect a young learner’s dignity by teaching the basic rules of etiquette, it fills a need in them. Dr. Montessori once taught a small group of children how to politely blow their noses; she explained every step in detail and showed them how to do it quietly and respectfully. After this presentation, the children erupted into spontaneous applause. They were delighted to know how to do something, that to adults would seem so basic. However, to these young learners, their teacher had shown them something they were longing to know how to do.

What does this look like in our classrooms? Treating the child with respect means that we speak to the children with soft voices and at eye level. We give the children freedom to choose their work and decide where they want to work. Yet the guidelines and limits of the environment are understood by all. For example, a lesson should be put back where it came from before moving on to something new. Children are free to choose their work, but are not free to disturb the work of others. We call this “freedom with responsibility.”

        

There are specific Grace and Courtesy lessons that demonstrate how to respect and care for oneself, such as blowing one’s nose, washing hands, getting in and out of a chair, putting on shoes, hanging up or putting on a jacket, etc.

     

Lessons on respecting others include how to greet a visitor, walking around a rug, how to ask for help, using soft voices, inviting others to work, how to solve a conflict with a classmate, etc.

       

Lessons on respecting the environment include carrying and rolling up a rug, setting the table, how to take materials off of shelves, washing a plant, washing a table or mirror, etc. We are working daily on cultivating a sense of gratitude and nurturing wonder.

One of the main goals of a Montessori education is to prepare students to be contributing and valued members of society. This starts with lessons of Grace and Courtesy, which are key to modeling peace, learning how to act in social situations, showing respect for each other. These are tools our children will use their entire lives!

 

2019 Carseat Safety Guidelines

2019 Carseat Safety Guidelines

2019 Carseat Safety Guidelines

The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) recently changed their safety recommendations to remove the age limit on rear-facing car seats. They now suggest keeping children rear-facing until they reach the highest weight and height allowed by the manufacturer of the seat. You can read a full overview of the guidelines at this link or read the summary below.

The AAP recommends:

  • Infants and toddlers should ride in a rear-facing car safety seat as long as possible, until they reach the highest weight or height allowed by their seat. Most convertible seats have limits that will allow children to ride rear-facing well beyond the age of 2.
  • Once they are facing forward, children should use a forward-facing car safety seat with a harness for as long as possible, until they reach the height and weight limits for their seats. Many seats can accommodate children up to 65 pounds or more.
  • When children exceed these limits, they should use a belt-positioning booster seat until the vehicle’s lap and shoulder seat belt fits properly. This is often when they have reached at least 4 feet 9 inches in height and are 8 to 12 years old.
  • When children are old enough and large enough to use the vehicle seat belt alone, they should always use lap and shoulder seat belts for optimal protection.
  • All children younger than 13 years should be restrained in the rear seats of vehicles for optimal protection.

Winter Clothing Recommendations:
Bulky clothing, including winter coats and snowsuits, should not be worn underneath the harness of a car seat. In a car crash, fluffy padding immediately flattens out from the force, leaving extra space under the harness. A child can then slip through the straps and be thrown from the seat. 
Instead, use a coat or blanket over the straps. You can add a blanket over the top of the harness straps or put your child’s winter coat on backwards (over the buckled harness straps) after he or she is buckled up.

You can read more Winter Car Seat Safety Tips from the AAP here.

Introducing your Family to the Idea of Independence

Introducing your Family to the Idea of Independence

“Never help a child at a task which he feels can succeed.” -Dr. Maria Montessori

If you are lucky, your family members – especially those proud grandparents! – are excited and eager to learn more about your child’s Montessori journey. While we can’t expect our extended family to completely rearrange their homes or lifestyles, there are some simple ways that they can support your child in building independence.

Simple ways for family members to help your child’s growing independence

Allow the child to make decisions with limited choices
You can allow a child opportunities to make decisions without giving up all control. Consider offering two choices – both of which you are happy with. “Would you like a grilled cheese sandwich or chicken noodle soup for lunch?”

Allow the child to do things for herself
It is the natural instinct of a loving family member to make life “easier” for a child. But when we take away opportunities to overcome worthy challenges, we inhibit them from learning new skills and building self-esteem. For example, it may take much longer for a young child to zip up her own coat, but when time allows, give her the opportunity to try. If she begins to get frustrated, provide the minimal amount of help needed (such as holding the bottom of the coat to create tension, while the child pulls up the zipper).

Prepare the environment for independence 
Allowing a child to do things for herself may require some support. Consider providing a stool at the bathroom sink so the child can reach the faucet to wash her hands. Consider putting out a small pitcher of water and a small glass so she can help herself when she is thirsty. If dishes, napkins, and silverware are placed in a lower cabinet, the child can help set the table for a meal.

Involve the child in activities of daily life
Not every visit with Grandma and Grandpa needs to involve a trip to the zoo. Children want to do what you do! Invite them to join you peeling vegetables, feeding pets, watering the flowers, etc. You may need to provide child-size tools for some of these activities, such as a small watering can or acrylic knife, so that your child can participate fully.

Create order in the environment
Instead of piling toys in a basket, consider setting up a small open bookshelf where only a few toys are accessible. This helps the child make independent choices and give more focused attention to the chosen activity. (Toys can be rotated in and out to keep the child’s interest.) A minimal, organized toy area will also help the child clean up independently because there is a clear place for everything.

Be careful of praise
Dr. Montessori found that praise can inhibit children from gaining independence because they begin to rely on the judgement of others. As an alternative, encouragement can be empowering. So instead of “Good job!” “Good girl,” or “You are so smart,” you can try, “You did it!” “Thank you for your help,” or “I can tell you worked really hard on this.”

How to help family members get on board

Model rather than preach!
Most family members won’t appreciate being given a list of rules about how to behave around your child. But you can provide a powerful example by modeling these approaches in front of your family.

Gentle reminders
Feel free to give family members gentle reminders, such as “Please don’t help him; he can do it himself” You can also make it clear what the child is capable of, such as “Lila likes to choose her own clothing. She can get dressed herself but she might need help if her arms get stuck. Please don’t worry if she puts things on the wrong way.”

Provide resources
If a family member seems receptive, you might share an article with a brief introduction to Montessori at Home, such as this one. For those who wish to know more, a nice introductory book is How to Raise an Amazing Kid the Montessori Way by Tim Seldin. Though not all of it will apply to extended family, it’s a quick read with lots of beautiful photos that provides a nice overview of Montessori for families. If you would like to help family members find child-size tools or suggest gifts that would be appreciated, you can give them a copy of the For Small Hands catalog or share a link to their website. You may also consider creating an Amazon wish list.

“The greatest gifts we can give our children are the roots of responsibility and the wings of independence.” -Dr. Maria Montessori

With a little help from family, we can create even more consistency between school and home and provide more opportunities for the child to build independence.

 

Staffing Update for 2019-20

Staffing Update for 2019-20

As we look ahead to the 2019-20 school year, we congratulate those members of our staff taking on new roles at Greenspring! We must also say goodbye to some dear friends and excitedly welcome some new members to our team. We are looking forward to a wonderful year!

Staff Taking on New Roles

Beven Barnhart

Beven Barnhart

Lead Guide in the Lower Elementary Redbuds Classroom

Beven Barnhart is taking over as the Lead Guide in the Redbuds classroom this fall. Beven has a BA in Fine Arts from Salisbury University. He completes his AMI Elementary Montessori training through Montessori Northwest this summer and will return the following summer to take his final exams. Beven has been a beloved member of our staff since 2017 and we are thrilled to see him take on this new role as a lead guide.

Shweta Santosh

Shweta Santosh

Lead Guide in the Children's House Red Spruce Classroom

Shweta Santosh will be the Lead Guide for our new Children’s House classroom. Shweta has been with Greenspring since 2017 as an assistant and a Montessori intern in the Dogwoods classroom. Shweta has a Masters in Education from the University of Madras in India and her AMS Montessori credential from the Maryland Center for Montessori Studies. Shweta is a Greenspring parent of two – one in Lower Elementary and one in our Adolescent Community.

Sonia Sabarikanth

Sonia Sabarikanth

Lead Guide in the Children's House Tulip Poplar Classroom

Sonia Sabarikanth is taking over as the Lead Guide in the Tulip Poplars classroom this fall. Sonia stepped in to assist in the classroom earlier this year, and she has had a powerful, positive effect on the classroom. We are thrilled to be able to provide a seamless transition for the students in the Tulip Poplar classroom. Sonia has a BA from the University of Delhi in India and her AMI Primary Certification from The Montessori Teacher Training Center of Northern California. Sonia is a Greenspring parent of two – one in Upper Elementary and one in our Adolescent Community.

Fond Farewells

Sandra Decombel

Sandra Decombel

Toddler Dual Language Assistant in the Scarlet Oaks Classroom

Sandra Decombel, our Spanish Dual Langauge Toddler Assistant, and Jamie Bartels, Lead Guide for the Tulip Poplars classroom, will be moving overseas with their children this summer. After losing their home to a fire last spring, they have decided to return to Belgium, Señora Sandra’s home country. We will miss Sandra and Jamie, as well as their two children!

Jamie Bartels

Jamie Bartels

Lead Guide in the Children's House Tulip Poplar Classroom

Sandra Decombel, our Spanish Dual Langauge Toddler Assistant, and Jamie Bartels, Lead Guide for the Tulip Poplars classroom, will be moving overseas with their children this summer. After losing their home to a fire last spring, they have decided to return to Belgium, Señora Sandra’s home country. We will miss Sandra and Jamie, as well as their two children!

Sarah Prunier Law

Sarah Prunier Law

Lead Guide for the Lower Elementary Redbuds Classroom

Sarah Prunier-Law, Lead Guide for the Redbuds classroom, will be moving on to new adventures. We wish her all the best and will also miss her two children!

Madison Tralka

Madison Tralka

Toddler Assistant in the Honeylocust Classroom

Madison Tralka, a Toddler Assistant, is graduating from Towson with a Bachelor’s degree this summer and starting her career. Congratulations, Madison!

Lee Lanou

Lee Lanou

Director of Training | Director of Children's House

Lee Lanou, our Director of Training and Children’s House, has been offered a very exciting opportunity as Director of Montessori Education with a dynamic company where she will be overseeing dozens of Montessori schools across the country. She will also be starting up new training centers on the west and east coasts. We will miss Lee but are delighted that she will be helping to bring Montessori to even larger communities of people.

Krista DeWitt

Krista DeWitt

Assistant Director of the Business Office

Krista Dewitt, our Assistant Director of the Business Office, has been with Greenspring for seven years. She is retiring this summer and looks forward to spending time with her grandchildren. We will miss her dearly and wish her all the best!

Warm Welcomes

Sarah Weiskopf

Sarah Weiskopf

Co-Guide in the Upper Elementary Ginkgo Classroom

Sarah Weiskopf will join our team as a co-guide for the Upper Elementary community in the fall. Sarah has a BA in Gender Studies with a Minor in Religion from Skidmore College. She taught English and worked as an Elementary Assistant at the International Montessori School of Prague for two years. Sarah receives her Elementary Montessori teaching credential and Masters Degree from the Washington Montessori Institute at Loyola University this summer. Sarah has traveled extensively (Czech Republic, Australia, Amsterdam!) and looks forward to sharing her experiences with the students.

Jamie Jeffries

Jamie Jeffries

Technology Support Specialist

Jamie Jeffries will be our new Technology Support Specialist. Jamie has a Bachelors degree in Industrial Technology and Education from Virginia State University and he is working on his Masters in Cloud Computing Architecture from the University of Maryland. Jamie will be an Enrichment Guide working with Elementary students in the Media Lab and working closely with the Guides to support students with the digital skills needed for presentations and research projects. Jamie will also be handling the school’s various technical support needs.

We are still in the process of hiring a few additional staff members. We will announce those new staff members as soon as they are on board!

To learn more about our growing team, please visit our Faculty and Staff page.